Borderline Personality Disorder

Recovering from Borderline personality disorder

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"why dont you just give him a chance"

idk because im not physically or mentally attracted to him and ‘but he likes you’ or ‘but hes really nice’ isnt going to change the fact that im not interested

Damn, I don’t think women know how much that really hurts


You cannot date somebody because telling them that you aren’t interested might hurt their feelings, that’s absurd and generally an awful idea. I’ve done it before and it ruined a perfectly good friendship.

Of course getting rejected feels bad, but it’s your responsibility to deal with those emotions, not somebody else’s responsibility to protect you from ever feeling them and by doing so compromising their own feelings and boundaries and time and personal space.

Wouldn’t it be worse to eventually learn that your dates were one big pity party instead of just knowing the truth straight away and dealing with your feelings about that?

Life isn’t like the movies, she’s not secretly in love with you, she’s not so unsure of herself that simply spending more time with you will completely change how she’s already decided she feels about you.

Persistence will not make her fall for you, it will frustrate everybody involved because the answer is always going to be no and you’ll be the person refusing to accept reality because you want it to be different. It’ll be worse for you than it is for anybody else, why would you want to do that to yourself? When you dont accept reality you think you are avoiding the painful feelings but you’re actually still feeling those feelings but they are worse because you are also creating suffering for yourself by not accepting things in order to process and move on.

You can’t expect people to withhold the truth from you when they know it’ll likely hurt your feelings. I know some people may do this in some situations but it’s not a fair or reasonable expectation to have of others. You don’t need to be protected from negative emotions, you need to learn how to accept and process them.

If you need help with coping with negative feelings, please reach out to somebody you trust. Ultimately I want people to be happy, but also I want people to learn to take no as an answer when somebody is asserting their personal boundaries.

(via love-asian-dramas)

Filed under dating rejection radical acceptance distress tolerance emotional regulation coping

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I don’t think people realise how hard it is to re-discover the person you were before depression or even try to remember your own personality

and if you’ve had depression since early childhood you don’t even know if you have your own personality

you didn’t have time to be a person before depression

and it’s scary having no idea who you are

It’s less about regaining who you used to be and more about discovering who you are now.

I am rediscovering myself and it’s majoritively a really positive experience. I am accepting that, though I have changed, 8 year old me and 17 year old me and 20 year old me are not something I have lost. They are my past and my past will always be real.

I have been those people, but now I have to be 26 year old me. I cannot get back to exactly how I was at a specific point in the history of my life because things have happened over the years to change and shape my constantly growing personality. There are plenty of things that remain the same, likes and dislikes, fears, needs, ambitions, skills, etc, but there are some that are no longer the same and some new elements to who I am which weren’t there before.

With this particular issue I believe I have found a really healthy balance between change and acceptance.

(Source: pixie-grotto, via love-asian-dramas)

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"No one will miss me", "I’m better off dead"


When I worked at a non-profit that handled suicide prevention, I had access to the donation records. Each month, a specific man donated 15$ to our organization. It was like clockwork.. same day, same man, he had been doing this for over 4 years. It always seemed odd to me but I never questioned it… until I saw a note attached one month. "For Noah- Dad"

his donation was once his child’s allowance.

I can promise you, they would miss you for the rest of their lives.

(via recoverist)

Filed under suicide suicide prevention reasons to live

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textbooks-and-teabags asked: I just ordered a new note pad and I want to start à book like you

You’re awesome! I’m really glad to hear this, I hope you enjoy making your me book and it helps you xxx

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Anonymous asked: What materials/supplies do you use to make your me book? It's adorable :)

Hi, the 4th link in this post - might answer your question :)

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Anonymous asked: Explain what your me book is? And how someone can develop their own.

Please see the links in [THIS] post :)

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Anonymous asked: Hi I love you blog I find it so inspiring and relatable and was wondering how do u come up with your ideas for your 'me book'. As its so amazing and artist while sticking to the main point of recovery x

Hi, I’m working on a explanatory post about my me book, with pictures and ideas and everything. If you look at posts I’ve tagged “you book” you’ll see a lot of other people’s take on the idea too :)

also see these four posts

[1] - my answer to a similar question.

[2] - Kimi’s answer to a similar question (sprite—wings)

[3] - Kimi’s video about her own me book

[4] - another of my answers to a similar question

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radiantlyrecover-ed asked: Beautiful blog! Just followed :)

Thank you very much, welcome, it’s lovely to have you here :)

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convertingtolight asked: Your me book like a professional book!

Why thank you :) I had dreams of being a professional artist once but now I’m focused primarily on recovery and then I’m hoping to work towards a career in mental health and/or youth work. Creativity will always have a valuable place in my life though and maybe one day I’ll have the time, energy and financial stability to be able to work on a creative project that I could publish.

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Anonymous asked: What medication are you on? Most of the time, it just has to say on the label that combining with alcohol is questionable, but it's completely fine, they just have to warn you! In most cases, you just get the sleepiness a lot harder, or get drunk faster. That's all it is. (:

I take Quetiapine (aka Seroquel) and the information leaflet says “Be careful how much alcohol you drink. This is because the combined effect of quetiapine and alcohol can make you sleepy.”

I know that some people can react badly to drinking with their medication even if there’s no warning so because of there actually being a warning, and because of my problems with self control, alcohol consumption and emetophobia, I’ve avoided alcohol while taking this medication.

I wrote a reply to another anon about alcohol [here] that goes more in depth about my relationship with booze.